International Women’s Day. Woman, hear me roar: What It Means to Finally Soften Into Femininity
If you’d asked me 30 years ago what it means to be a woman, I couldn’t have answered.
I didn’t know who I was. I didn’t know what feminine even meant. I didn’t know what sisterhood felt like.
I operated in my masculine for so long.
Playing the men’s game. Hustling. Working hard. Grinding myself into the ground. Performing strength. Performing confidence. Performing invulnerability.
I wore burnout like a badge of honor. I thought that’s what success required. I thought that’s what it meant to be powerful.
And inside? I was disconnected. Exhausted. Living in survival mode.
I didn’t trust women. I didn’t trust sisterhood. I kept my walls up. I competed. I compared. I kept my distance.
Because that’s what I thought I had to do to survive.
Now? I’m in my softness era. My feminine era.
Not willing to do burnout anymore. Not willing to be successful on anyone’s terms but my own.
I’m willing to be deeply vulnerable. To share my truth. To help others. To be of service. To remember who I actually am underneath all the performing.
Healing my relationship with sisterhood has been one of the most beautiful gifts of my life.
Working with women I love. Sisters I have fun with. Showcasing their talents. Elevating them. Being elevated in return. Being part of something bigger than myself.
This is what it feels like to come home.
Being a woman is something I’m so deeply proud of. I’m glad I got to be a woman in this lifetime.
And I’m only just now, at this stage of my life, softening into femininity in a deeper way.
I can’t wait to see what the next 10 years hold.
If you’ve been performing strength for so long you forgot what softness feels like, if you’ve been hustling in your masculine because you thought that’s what success required, if you’ve had challenges with sisterhood and haven’t known how to heal them.
You’re not alone.
You’re not broken.
You just forgot how to come home.
This is the work. This is the return.
kx