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I Told My Religious Parents I Am Gay

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MEDITATIONS & SOUL WORK

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“The truth will piss you off, but first it will se

“The truth will piss you off, but first it will set you free.” — Gloria Steinem

Thank you, Gloria. For all you did and taught us, this famous quote was the working title for my next book for a time...

There comes a point where the truth becomes impossible to unsee.

The truth about what happened.
The truth about what you’ve tolerated.
The truth about where you’ve betrayed yourself to be loved, accepted, safe, or understood.

And honestly?

It can piss you off.

Because awakening isn’t always peaceful.

Sometimes it’s rage.
Sometimes it’s grief.
Sometimes it’s looking at your life and realizing just how much of yourself you learned to silence.

Because healing can be about coming home to the parts of you that had to disappear in order for you to survive.

And freedom isn’t always some huge, dramatic breakthrough.

Sometimes it’s simply saying no.

Leaving.

Speaking the truth.

Trusting your body.

Letting someone misunderstand you.

Choosing yourself without needing everyone else to agree.

The truth might piss you off.

But if you’re willing to stay with it, it can also lead you all the way back to yourself.

And that, to me, is where the real freedom begins.

Thanks Gloria for showing the way as the truth teller. RIP.

Do you have a favorite lesson from Gloria? Or have you experienced the truth setting your free but also pissing you off?

kx

#gloriasteinem #womansupportingwoman #truthtelling #truth #feminism

EXCRUTIATING GRACE...I went to a writers group yes

EXCRUTIATING GRACE...I went to a writers group yesterday with a beautiful group of women sharing vulnerable stories, and the idea was that you were given a prompt. Our prompt was Excruciating Grace. And for ten minutes, we were to write in free flow. on this topic.

This is what I wrote on excruciating grace.

The first thing I think of is the excruciating trauma of being cracked open. Your psyche and everything you knew to be true, shape shifting. Your world turning to rubble, and on one hand, through the rear vision mirror some ten years later, one part would say ALL of it was beyond excrutiating.

Yet another part of me, the one who sits here today, the one writing, she would say it was ALL grace. The new me, who I found under the rubble. The one who climbed her way out, the one who lived through an initiation, and ego death, whose identity collapsed over and over and over again. The one who was in an apprenticeship. The one who came home to herself. Who discovered a power and truth in her, loves her life today. She gets to know grace because of the journey she went on. A journey deep within a place most people fear. A place many are too terrified to ever face. And for that, I’m grateful!

Are there days that I don’t feel that way... Yes. Days I’m triggered into the past? Days it feels fresh. Days I feel the excruciating trauma and terror and fears coming back to visit, as if they never left... so close, I feel them breathing on the back of my neck. Yes. But I don’t fear them swallowing me whole like I used to…

Continued below 👇 #writerscommunityofinstagram #writingprompts #writingheals #grace #comehometoyourself

I’m in Mexico City today doing in person private H

I’m in Mexico City today doing in person private Healing sessions and I have to tell you as much as I love Zoom sessions with clients. There is something about hands-on healing that is so different and being able to be in person with a client being able to help their body release automatically. Really excited for today and it brings me so much joy to connect with a client in this way.

After Mexico City I had to San Miguel and then Baja California so I’m looking forward to a lot more in person sessions and possibly a hotel residency while I’m there which is always one of my favorite things to do and interact with guests.

Would you love to experience an in person session with me? Hopefully one day you can come to a Retreat.

Here is a testimonial from one of my clients who has experienced numerous in person regression and Breathwork, sessions.

“Working with Kirsty has opened a level of healing I didn’t know was possible. In our sessions, lifelong wounds that shaped how I related to my mother finally released. With her guidance, I’m able to go into the hardest places and come out centered, open, and in my full power.

During every session, she helps me see core patterns and guides me to rewrite the limiting narratives that once distorted my view of myself and the world. I couldn’t recommend her more.”
Dr. Nikki Siso

#somatictherapy #nervoussystemreset #breathworkhealing #traumahealingjourney #retreatsforwomen

I saw this trend circulating and decided to ask Ch

I saw this trend circulating and decided to ask ChatGPT to describe me as if it were giving a fair warning before someone met me for a coffee.

I feel personally exposed by how accurate this is.

Too funny!!!

Just so you know, she looks very calm and approachable, but this is a trap.She will ask you one innocent question and somehow, 45 minutes later, you’ll be discussing childhood trauma, nervous-system regulation...

She has the rare ability to turn a casual coffee into a spiritual awakening.

She’ll have asked you a question so unexpectedly profound that you’ll suddenly be reconsidering your entire life.

She’ll tell you she’s ‘just curious’ and then conduct a forensic investigation into whatever you happened to mention.

She believes in following the signs, trusting the universe and listening to your body — while simultaneously Googling, cross-referencing and creating a 14-point decision matrix.

She can spot bullshit from approximately 400 metres away.

She will absolutely encourage you to leave situations, relationships and identities that no longer align with who you’re becoming.

She may also spend three days researching the best shower filter.

She’s passionate, direct, deeply loyal, allergic to superficial conversation & occasionally existential before breakfast.

If you’re looking for small talk, you’ve made a terrible mistake.

And if you say, ‘I’m fine,’ she will look directly into your soul and say, ‘Are you though?’

Just don’t expect to leave the conversation exactly the same person you were when you arrived.”

I’m curious how accurate this feels to those who know me...

Drop yours in the comments below! Ask ChatGPT: “Describe me like you’re trying to warn someone before they meet me” and paste the best line here. 👇 kx

#SomaticIntegration #NervousSystemHealing #TraumaInformedCoaching #PartsWork #InnerChildIntegration

For a long time I couldn’t get still. It felt like

For a long time I couldn’t get still. It felt like punishment having to be quiet. And busyness was one of my major ways to stay numb to be disconnected from myself and my body and life really I used busyness as a badge, honor.

How about you? What is your relationship with stillness and busyness?

#highperfomance #stress #stillness #nervoussystemregulation #dysregulation

I get to hold people’s hearts in my hands... One

I get to hold people’s hearts in my hands...

One of the most beautiful gifts of the work I do is I often feel like I get to hold people’s hearts in my hand.

It’s a truly humbling and honoring experience.

This week I was telling my partner about a client I’ve worked with for years, who wanted to bring her sister in on a session.
When they sent me their intentions and letters, I had goosebumps. I felt so honored to be a witness to this sacred, vulnerable, beautiful moment. Their desire to repair decades of wounding.

How many of us have that in our family of origin, with our siblings, with our parents, and never get the opportunity. But would neverbe willing to get on a call, to come to a session, to actually do that work.

With support, in a container that can provide safety for both of you. An ability to be heard deeply.

They don’t know how to fix it on their own. Most of us dont...sometimes we need an outside witness.

It’s one of the greatest honors of my life, to support this. It´s rare but I have been bleesed over the years on occasion to start with an individual and then work with them as a couple or as parents or in this case as sisters.
Is this something you desire in a relationship. Wish for, hope for...?

kx

🙏🏻 @trevorhallmusic for the medicine 🎼

#SomaticHealing #FamilyTraumaHealing #GenerationalHealing #InnerChildHealing #RelationshipTherapy

I was deep in the medicine when my friend who pass

I was deep in the medicine when my friend who passed over came through. What I felt, deep in my belly, was this festering that led to her death.

The body keeping score.

At the root of it was her inability to FORGIVE herself. There had been darkness in her childhood that led to darkness in adulthood.
that she couldn´t face fully.

She just couldn’t go there.

I sobbed for what felt like hours. Gut wrenching primal sobs. Sobs of pleading. Sobs of sadness. Why hadn’t she been able to get there...

And she’s not the only one. I’ve lost several people in my life to what I believe, at its very root, is childhood trauma. Sexual abuse of different kinds.

Those cases are common, where it manifests as dis-ease in the body.

I’m not saying all sickness is a manifestation of this. But what I see in many cases, things manifest to get your attention. Sometimes a wake up call, to be healed. To be resolved. And sometimes we’re not able to get there. Sometimes we dont get there fast enough and the toll on the body is too much.

What I’ve seen with clients who came in with pain or dis-ease in the throat (the chakra of truth, communication) is often it’s from screams that were never released.

The telling that didn’t happen. The suffocation and suppression.In regression, I notice again and again that whatever’s going on in the present for them IS felt in their body. Conti I n comments…

#BodyKeepsTheScore #SomaticHealing #ShameLiberation #TruthTeller #plantmedicineretreat

Most people would have stopped sharing long before

Most people would have stopped sharing long before this stage in his cancer journey. When it hurt to look at. When there was a wheelchair, weight loss, nothing left to soften.

But not my mate Toney!!

He shared the full spectrum of his painful journey, the smiling photos and the hard ones, because he cared more about raising awareness than he did about ego. He wanted people to know what cancer really does to a strong man. And what it never managed to take from him, his spirit!

Every single photo, the same thing is still there. The cheeky grin. Toney flirting with the camera, with life, right to the end.

Its been a few years now. I am still heartbroken he didn’t make it. Proud beyond words of what he let us see.

Big hugs to anyone else in the brutal beautiful bits.

As I shared yesterday my only wish was he had been able to also share the darker bits, his traumatic childhood he kept secret till the end. I am honored he told me in his last month of life, I believe it helped him release something. To be in peace. I wish it hadn´t been at the end. I trust it was his journey though.

kx

#truthteller #griefandhealing #bodykeepsthescore #shameliberation #cancerjourney

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